Working On Something New

Thursday, August 20, 2015

These last few months I have been working on something really special and dear to my heart. I can not go into too much detail at the moment, but I did want to let you all know that something exciting is in the works. I've teamed up with the lovely team over at Studio Calico and we have dreamed up some real beautiful things in honor of my son Ryan. I am so thrilled for it all. The dream team at Studio Calico have been more than generous and kind. Studio Calico is a beautiful company specializing in all things creative. During these last few months I've had to travel to Tennessee to meet with them all and the experience so far as been more than mind blowing. In a very good way. 

However, being pregnant with gnarly morning sickness plus travel really threw me for a loop . . . I was sick half the time taking breaks to eat saltine crackers and sip tea. It made me smile at times. That I was sitting in on conferences and business meetings for projects I'm creating with my son at the heart and sole of each thing developed. All the while my body was working hard on creating a tiny sibling for Ryan. The entire time I was sitting there with both my children beating within belly, brain and heart. Searching for beauty like that gives me comfort.  

It is not all beauty though. You can see in the photos below, I hid under my favorite ball cap and the chair to my left is full of ginger ale and crackers.

I will be sharing more and more as the weeks and month come. I hope you all stay tuned. We do have a survey you can take to help us along the way. You can take if you feel up to it. I'd greatly appreciate it. Most of this stuff is all new to me and aside from the ideas I came with, I'm along for the ride Studio Calico has me on. Which I'm so grateful and excited for! I am most excited for the future and when the time comes to share it all with you.

Here is the link to the survey & Thank You for taking the time!







A Big Huge Thank You

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Friends! It has been two weeks since I've had my surgery and I can't believe the amount of messages, emails and kind words that I had waiting for me. I want to Thank You all so much! My surgery went well and I can finally walk with minimal pain. Hernia surgeries are no joke . . . even more so while pregnant. Especially when your doctor has you do the surgery awake while only using a local anesthetic to keep the baby as safe as possible. I'm so thankful it is all over and my muscles are all fixed and in place again. As everything heals I can go for short walks and that is pretty much it.

My doctor did clear me for a little 'baby moon' to Hawaii, so long as I promised to relax. Baby and I have been eating our weight in Hawaiian Shave Ice and watching Dan snorkel and swim from the shoreline. However, lounging by the beach is definitely better than lounging on my couch.

We just arrived and below are a just a few photos. I can't thank you enough for all your sweet words.

Thank You for taking part in my journey, your love means the world.





Dan took this photo of a sea turtle while out snorkeling. I think of Crush from Finding Nemo.



First Kicks & A Hernia

Thursday, July 23, 2015

When it rains it pours. Sometimes it rains, but the sun is still out. My favorite is when the sky is deep purple grey and loud with thunder. Lightening scares me, but sometimes when it rains there is lightening and my husband thinks its awesome. Rain can happen at any time and take on a few different looks, different sounds. When it rains your surroundings either brace themselves for the beating or thirstily welcome the soft wet kiss. When the rain is all said and done there usually is a rainbow or diamond like glitters that shine from flower petals and plants alike. In the end, no matter how rough the rain, most everything is better because of it.

When you are going through a crap time some people will tell you "Well, honey. When it rains it pours." Meaning, yup! You are walking through crap and you'll encounter more crap because that's they way it goes. It can be true. I've even said it to friends who have walked along side their own troubles. We say things like this to help make us feel better. To help our minds take ease. As in, take comfort because when something difficult happens, something else always happens alongside of it. Happens to everyone . . .

Someone said this phrase to me yesterday when I found out I have a serious hernia and will possibly need surgery to fix it. Some of you may know that I am currently pregnant and no matter how you slice it, surgery while pregnant just shouldn't go together. I've been having this awful pain for a month now that we chalked up to something called "round ligament pain". It made sense as my body was growing by the day my muscles where stretching round and out and sometimes that can be painful. We are generally positive people in this tiny Saldana household and after working eight hours on my feet while housing a tiny human the stretching pain seemed normal enough. Dummies we can be while blinded with our optimism.

Anyways, at the end of a long Monday I had some how become the proud new owner of a bouncy ball sized bump down near my lady bits. Congratulations! While having two bumps one baby, one painful, I marched myself into my doctors office not really sure of what all this mess was. Long story short its a hernia and I see a surgeon today to see what my options are.

Anyone who knows me personally knows deeply that I am dramatic and take everything personal. What is life with out some deep feelings I say? All I care to do is feel and when you are scared sometimes the only way to make you feel better is to cry. My husband hates it, but that's what girlfriends are for I guess. To brave me at my most dramatic state, listen to my woes and toss a chocolate peanut butter shake into my worked up cage of emotions. Thank you, Megan.

Realistically things could be worse, a lot worse. I know this from having to go through the absolute worst just a year ago. A hernia is common. I don't know if it is with pregnant women, but whatever, I'll find out all the details and hopefully get it all taken care of. The thought of surgery still scares me, mostly because I'm worried about the baby. I took the news pretty hard yesterday and cried myself silly. Endured a panic attack, the first one I've had in months. Tried to calm down while watching television with swollen eyes. Feeling frustrated, why can't these nine months just go smoothly?

Why must it rain?

It has to rain. Us Californians know, we need the rain. Literally. We as humans need the rain to happen in our life too. We need to go through the crap, and go through it a bit more. I believe in the rain and all the work it does for us. I'm obsessed with learning about how the rain has changed us for the better, for the stronger. When it rains, it pours so when it finally stops we can come out the other end much more grateful for all the blessings we have and will continue to gain.

After my anxiety ran its course. My tears stopped welling. My husband slowly crawled by my side. The chocolate peanut butter shake cup sucked dry. I sat in my bed. Finally calm and feeling rational. Feeling like "OK! If I have to have surgery, bring it on." Everything was still and calm. The glow of Diners, Drive Ins and Dives splashing color through out dark bedroom. And as the rain ceased our baby kicked for the first time. Not just one kick, a bunch of kicks. My husband and I sat with our hands on my belly laughing. The baby was kicking to say "Hi" or perhaps "Quiet down out there!" Baby kicks are so special and the feeling is indescribable. While the baby was kicking I also felt my other my baby, my son Ryan. He was laughing alongside us, I felt the warmth of my husbands hand on my belly hot with love and felt Ryan's chubby hand too. In that moment of bliss we were four . . . and then we fell asleep.

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When the rain is all said and done there usually is a rainbow or diamond like glitters that shine from flower petals or ends with sweet soft baby kicks. In the end, no matter how rough the rain, most everything is better because of it.

Guest Editor On Brickyard Buffalo

Monday, June 22, 2015

A few months ago a company I have been a fan of for a while reached out to me about being their 'Guest Editor' for a week. After reading their email I couldn't respond "Yes" fast enough. I was just excited to work with them and really wanted to share a few of my favorite things with everyone.

Brickyard Buffalo is a website designed for the all of you who love to shop...but on a budget. They curate the trendiest items out there for a price you can afford. They work with 'Guest Editors' to help with finding great products and this month I'm lucky enough to have joined the BB team.

My favorite picks include products that remind me of my son Ryan, items I wish I could have used with Ryan and a few fun Summer picks that everyone will love while playing in the sun. I hope you will check it out and find something you'll love. I've highlighted a few below and the rest you can browse on the Brickyard Buffalo site here.


This 'Live Loud Live Wild' print is very special to me. It was the phrase I came up with for my son's funeral service and it suck around ever since. Our son was very much loud and wild and we have this print in several of our rooms at home as inspiration to live our life just as our son. 


My dear friend Andrea of Tubby Todd Bath Co. creates bath healthy all natural bath products for your little ones. I wish I had this to use with Ryan. It smells amazing and once you get to know Andrea you'll fall in love with her and her bath soap. 


Lets Playground mats are really a genius invention. They come in all different sizes and colors and offer the perfect layout for outdoor activities. You can mess them up all you want and just rinse off when your done. If I had these with Ryan I would have laid it on the kitchen floor while we baked so he could spill freely. 


This photo taken by the truly talented Max Wagner caught my eye at a craft show last year. I bought it because of the red looking balloon and it reminded me of my son. Since then I've had the pleasure of working with Max and his wife and they are just the best people on this planet. There are are a few of his beautiful prints listed this week, but this one is my favorite. 


I've chatted about a these but there is so much more over on Brickyard Buffalo
Let me know if you have any favorites. 
Have a happy week!



Happy Father's Day To You Dan

Sunday, June 21, 2015

Waking up this morning I was overwhelmed with sadness. I felt the giant hole in my heart and it was so quiet the stillness was heavy in the air. In that moment I fiercely missed Ryan's loud, little footsteps pounding into our bedroom. I missed feeling his body slam into mine as he whispers "time to get up". Most mornings my mind goes through what was, but on these little holidays such as Father's Day or Mother's Day after losing our son are awful. Frankly, they suck.

It is always a fight to stay positive and get through the day as Ryan would want us to. Today was especially difficult, though after two waffles with powdered sugar and a pound of bacon it was easy to see that today was only to be fun and full of smiles. The sun was bright and Dan and I found ourselves at the beach which was exactly what Ryan would have wanted.

We missed out on a homemade card created by Ryan. We missed out on his sloppy kisses and lovingly aggressive hugs. However, we talked about him all day and remembered how he loved to eat sand and lay on his stomach while the waves crashed onto him. We felt him strong as the sun kissed out skin. We celebrated Father's Day with Ryan in the best way we could.

These little holidays can be awful with out our son.
Frankly, they can suck.
But not this time. Not today. Today was beautiful.

Happy Father's Day To You Dan. Ryan and I love you. 


We also ended the day with giant snow cones which I clearly enjoyed more than the beach it looks like ... 



We also spent some time with my own dad which was a treat. Below is my little sister and I with our dad. And our snow cones. 



Roasting Chickpeas & Indulging In Your Comfy Place

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Anytime I'm upset or frustrated I usually find myself in one of three places . . .

Vigorously cleaning.  

Creating in the kitchen. 

In bed eating chocolate while watching F.R.I.E.N.D.S reruns. 

I'm curious...Where do you find yourself when feeling extremely frustrated, grumpy, sad or depressed? We all have our go-to activities when we are really going through the thick of it. I hope you aren't afraid to unveil your comfy go-to place when you feel like crap. It is perfectly OK to admit to having a terrible, awful day and then go do whatever it is that will make you feel better. (so long as it isn't bad for you) Sometimes I feel guilty about wanting to lay in bed or create in my kitchen for hours only to leave a giant mess. However, I am a big believer in letting your body recoup in ways that feel good so you can later be the best you can be.


These last few days have been extra hard for me. I've been rotating between my bed, cleaning the bathrooms and eating chocolate with my gal pal Rachel Green. I've let myself have a few days of letting my grief get the best of me and coping in the ways that I do. I'm tired of letting my grief make me feel defeated, rather than challenged. I know I'll be up for the challenge this grief gives me once I indulge in my comfy place and gain strength to do so.

So tell me, what is it you do to make yourself laugh and feel good?

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As mentioned above, one of the things I like to do to make myself feel better is recipe test ideas or things I've seen done that look delicious. I usually never have what I need so I substitute like crazy and leave my kitchen a giant mess. I've also been known to make a trek to the grocery store in yoga pants with a hole in the crotch and no bra, desperately in search of an ingredient. Anyways, I truly love recipes and learning new ones.

Roasting chickpeas has been around for quite some time, I know. However, I've recently learned how to roast chickpeas. They are pretty tasty for a quick and healthy snack and now I'm currently obsessed with creating different flavors. I posted this photo to Instagram and in true friend fashion you all started commenting your favorite flavors. Some of you like it hot and spicy, others like them sweet and a few of you out there just love it simple; olive oil and sea salt. For the record olive oil and sea salt is addicting!

What I hadn't seen done yet was combining these tasty little beans with one of my favorite flavors on the planet. Coconut. I decided to dream up a new flavor and share it with you all. Including a few helpful tips on how to achieve the best crunchy little chick peas known to man.


Tropical Roasted Chickpeas 
.. and tips for roasting ..



What You Need
-one can of garbanzo beans.
-2 table spoons canola oil
-1 cup coconut flakes chopped fine
-1/2 cup dried pineapple chopped
-1 teaspoon raw sugar
-1 teaspoon sea salt


What You Do
- Open a can of chickpeas. (also known as Garbanzo beans) place them in a colander and rinse them real good with cold water. These beans are very soft and easy to crush. Rinsing them with cold water is important. Warm water can make them extra soft and smooshy which isn't great when roasting.

-Once they are rinsed keep them in the colander. Grab two other bowls. Now for the time consuming part. When you pick up the chickpea you'll notice a sheer skin that coats the outside. The skin can be easily removed by lightly pinching the chickpea between your fingers. Be careful not to pinch the chickpea to hard and crush it. Once you've removed the skin a few times you'll get the hang of it. Place the skinless chickpeas in one bowl, the skins in another bowl. The skins you will throw away and yes, they look gross. Get comfy, skinning these little guys takes some time.




-After the skins have been removed the beans have to fully dry. I like to place them on a baking sheet lined with a dish towel and cover then with another dish towel. I let them dry for a good hour or so because moving forward. If you roast them with out drying completely they won't get as crispy.



-Once the chickpeas are ready to roast, place them on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper or a silicon pad. Bake the chickpeas naked (with nothing on them) at 400 degrees for ten minutes.

-Take the chickpeas out of the oven and coat them with the oil, sea salt and raw sugar. Use a rubber spatula to gently coat them evenly. Place back in the oven for about 15-20 minutes or until dark brown and crispy. At about 2 minutes till they need to be taken out of the oven ... take the chickpeas out and toss with chopped coconut. Place them back in the oven to finish off and toast the coconut at the same time. 



-Once the chickpeas are out of the oven and cooled, toss them with the chopped dried pineapple. Keep this snack in an air tight container for up to a week.





I hope you enjoy these and indulge in your comfy place when you need to.

Happy Easter, I Love You . . . Can I Have My Basket?

Sunday, April 5, 2015

This grieve has a mind of it's own at times. It can rest aside, then awake and remind you of all the beauty that once was just a year ago. It leaves you alone with your thoughts and deeply sad. I always figured that Christmas or Ryan's birthday would be the hardest to live through with out him. However, Easter has proven to be just as difficult if not the hardest. I think because Easter was the last holiday we spent together. The day was perfect. Ryan loved Easter. The day has always been somewhat special.

Five years ago I was home with my mom. It was just two days after Easter. I was twenty five. My mom still makes Easter baskets for all of us however, now gift cards and bath products take the place of candy and toys. I remember telling my mom I was pregnant soon after I opened my Easter basket. I was crying because I was scared. The first thing my mom said after I told her I was pregnant was,

"YAY! I can make the baby an Easter basket next year! Jacqui, don't cry a baby is a blessing."

Since having Ryan, Easter has proven to be the most fun. Mostly because of the egg hunts and sugar. Ryan had my sweet tooth multiplied by ten, plus both his parent's competitive spirit. Ryan had to win, had to get the most eggs, had to get the most candy, just had to! He would say "I need to win Mom!" and in true Jacqui fashion I would say "I know baby, Mommy will help you!". So Dan and I both would run around and scout where the eggs were and try and direct Ryan to where the goods were.

Easter baskets were better than Christmas morning! We hid Ryan's basket and he would have to search for it in the morning along with a few eggs I hid. This last Easter Dan had started to teach Ryan about what it meant to be "hot or cold" when looking for something. So for a good thirty minutes Ryan slithered and snuck around the house shouting "Daddy! I am hot or cold?" "HOT?" all the while we were giggling. Dan would say "You are so cold Ry, you are freezing!!" Ryan thought that was so funny. Our last Easter morning was really, really good.

In our family everyone gives the children Easter baskets filled to the brim with all kinds of great things. So, as the day pressed on and we ventured out to visit family I instructed Ryan that he had to be kind and grateful. In the car we rehearsed. I told him "Ryan you have to say Happy Easter OK? You tell everyone Happy Easter and that you love them or else you won't get a basket." Ryan just nodded his head and then asked "Can Katy Perry come on now?" As if he were trying to tell me, relax I got this.

Forever we will remember my little determined man so ungracefully stomping into my Aunts house. Finding his Tia, giving her a kiss and then say "Happy Easters, I love you . . . Can I have my basket?"
In the moment I was horrified and told him to be nice and it wasn't polite to just ask for a basket. Everyone knew we had rehearsed. It was awful and hysterical.

I know for a fact that Heaven is glittering on this day. I know your Easter basket is full and I hope you took it easy on everyone up there. Today on this Easter with out you I will do nothing but think of you. I will live and love for you. I will get up and get dressed and find a few eggs for you. I will eat candy and laugh for you. I will remember our past Easters with a smile.

Happy Easter, I love you . . . Can I have my basket?

below are a few photos from our last Easter




Love Ry's little determined face. He was also so worried he wouldn't find them all. 



Together trying to beat out everyone at this egg hunt. Dan, these break my heart into a million pieces. You two, best friends. 




He won. He will always win. 


This was Ryan's Easter basket I put together for him last year. 


 Happy Easter to our Ryan




 

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